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Divorce And Its Underlying Causes

By Jacquline Maul


There are a lot of complicated reasons why partners make a decision to divorce each other, and these are specific to the couple's marital relationship, personal issues and unique experiences. Some common reasons why couples decide to request a divorce include a dearth of commitment and communication, financial issues, betrayal, alcohol dependence and substance abuse, abandonment, abuse, inability to resolve or manage conflicts, and differences in personal and career plans. Differences in religious beliefs, in how to raise kids, and how to cope with parents and in-laws, can also lead to countless arguments, in due course finishing in divorce.


Based on research, dearth of communication is the most common cause of divorce. For most couples, the relationship begins to become weaker due to an inability to communicate properly. Open lines of communication are absolutely essential in order to have a successful marriage. Otherwise grudges and misconceptions build up over time, finally resulting in major explosions.

Several divorces come about because both parties rarely talk about their prior to marriage, and they are not prepared to exert effort and work on their relationship once they are married. Couples often look for speedy solutions rather thantaking some time to resolve their issues. There are also some couples who decide to go ahead with a divorce just because of unimportant reasons. Those who come from a broken family are more likely to engage in divorce, when compared with people who grew up in a stable household.

People who get married at the age of 23 to 27 are more likely to stay together when compared with those who get married in their teenage years. Couples who share a house before getting married have increased divorce rates as well, compared to those who did not.

Another source of contention between married couples revolves around different spending habits. For instance, if the husband is a saver while the wife insists upon buying herself expensive jewelry and clothes regularly, this puts stress on the relationship. In general, financial issues are a large part of why couples tend to get divorced. Couples also tend to divorce more often when the man in the relationship is unemployed. Definitely, this can put the financial security of the household in jeopardy, but even if not, the male ego may have something to do with it. Some studies show that most unemployed, married males are prone to experiencing depression, irritability, low self-esteem and difficulty in getting along with their partners.

In most cases, the causes for divorce existed even before the couples got married. Getting married doesn't necessarily remove those differences and issues, although the couple may wish that everything will be magically taken care of once they are married. When they find that matters have not resolved after marriage, these couples turn to divorce as a solution. That is why professionals recommend that it would be smart to learn more about your partner first and figure out honestly whether you are ready or not to get married before actually getting into it, to be able to avoid a divorce.




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